Sunday, February 10, 2019

Keys to Beating the Quarter-Life Crisis
Photo by: #CharlieShotMe

"Quarter-Life Crisis - Noun. When you're caught in between living life and worrying about if ever you're going to be able to live the life you want."

How many times have you questioned yourself thinking you're not good enough? How many times have you wondered if you'll ever be successful like Oprah Winfrey, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Dr. Andrew Tan, the late Henry Sy, John Gokongwei, your parents, friends, and people you've always looked up to?

I go through a quarter-life crisis pretty often. There were countless times wherein I felt stuck with my life, confused with what I want, unsure with what to do, and lost in finding the right path for me. It feels that everyone expects so much out of me and I'm torn between not disappointing the people around me vs. simply doing what makes me happy and living up to my OWN expectations. I kept praying - hoping I'd find some answers the following day. I would also confide in some close friends to get some life advice.

So here I am writing this post, sharing what I've learned and if you're going through the same, I just want you to know that I feel you. *Huuugs* Anyway, here are 8 effective ways to deal with the so-called quarter life-crisis. These ideas worked for me so I hope they can help you too, somehow. ;)

1. Change your perspective.

Life is rarely exactly the way we want it to and people don't act as we would like them to. From time to time, we'd feel downright exhausted from not getting the results we want at once. It's easy to feel that we are a failure or that we messed up. Truth is, we ought to accept that life is never fair and we should stop complaining and feeling sorry for ourselves. It's not life's job to make everything perfect for us. It's our own challenge to keep moving forward and to keep doing the best we can with the circumstances that surround us. Changing our perspective will help us see each problem life throws at us, as an opportunity to grow and a chance to roll with the punches.

2. Stop comparing yourself to others.

Trust your own pace, be patient, and embrace where you are now. All the things happening in our lives, even the people we encounter, are all here to teach us something or prepare us for the future. No matter what we do or how hard we try, we just can't please everyone. Our self-worth should not be based on how people perceive us or how we compare ourselves to others around us especially on social media. Remember, people always selectively choose what they post online. We don't post everything. As a lifestyle blogger and influencer, I post positive snippets and happy highlights of my life. You don't see my struggles behind the Instagram life scenes. So why compare our imperfect lives to the idealized version of people we follow on social media? Upon realizing this, our approach should be to focus our energy not on becoming like the people we follow on social media but more importantly, on becoming the better version of ourselves. After all, no one is you and no one will ever be you.

3. Realize the power of your own thoughts.

Oftentimes, when we feel tired or when we're in a bad mood, it's easy to allow our minds to slip into various forms of negativity. I am so guilty of this. I can even recall making stupid, rash decisions even if I know I'd regret them. I realized I have to always be aware of my negative and insecure thinking before they spiral out of control. Yes it's difficult but we can always practice it until it becomes a habit. In every bad situation we encounter, we just have to think that it is just a temporary phase and it will soon pass, because it will. Know that happiness comes from living your own life for yourself, not for your parents, not for anyone else. 

4. Read something inspiring or motivational.

Whether it's a new book, a blog post like this one, or a random article you saw on your newsfeed while browsing your social media account, read something new. You'll be surprised on how it magically expands your mind and changes the way you see the world.

5. Get in control of your finances.

According to a recent survey, financial difficulty was the most often cited cause of a quarter life crisis. At this age, we try to evaluate ourselves and see if we can already stand on our own feet and become financially independent. If you want to get ahead financially, it's important to monitor your expenditure, save more, and invest where you can. My mom always tells me to "live within my means" so I always keep in mind to spend less than what I earn. Another thing I've learned is that you have to make your money work for you. Many people think that the only way to build wealth is with a job, but contrary to that, you can start building your wealth while you're young and invest your money in stocks, insurances, or in properties. Remember the earlier you start saving or investing, the more your money will work for you. Two years ago, I took the risk of investing in my first property and I'm more than happy with it! I can't wait to share more about it with you guys in another post. 

If you want to invest in properties, just send me a direct message on Instagram or Facebook, and I will help you get started! ;)

6. Try something new.

Think of something that excites you - a hobby or a sport that brings fun and positivity to your life, or any activity that you've been wanting to try. This will steer your life on a new exciting course. Early this year, I tried for the very first time, hiking in Mt. Batulao Rizal. It was an amazing experience that taught me the importance of having a positive attitude and to enjoy the journey of life amidst all the struggles and hardships along the way. 

7. Travel.

Traveling gives us an opportunity to detoxify our mind, to rejuvenate, and to relax. Sometimes all we need is an occasional break from our hectic routine. Whenever I feel stressed out, I would always feel the need to travel because being exposed to a whole new environment always forces me take in new and refreshing perspectives that allow me to see things differently and transform my outlook on life.

8. Always be grateful.

Instead of focusing on the negative things happening in our lives, it always helps to look back at the positive moments and to be grateful for what we have. Look around you, no matter how big or small it may seem, I'm sure there will always be one thing that makes you feel a swell of gratitude. Keep in mind, "The more genuinely grateful you feel for the gift of life, the more peaceful and happy you will be."

Hope you find these tips helpful! Feel free to comment down below your thoughts or if you wish to add anything on this list on how you managed to grow and resolve your crisis. 

Each of us is different and we have our own unique way on how we respond or react to these types of circumstances but no matter what, we shouldn't let these situations hinder us from our goals. We should always recognize it to be able to take charge of the situation and look at it as opportunity to embrace this change and to become the person we dream to be.


  1. Bravo, sistah! *Clap clap clap* Hahaha!

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  3. Trying something new and traveling will often help you to get rid of some kind of stagnation when you in crisis and things seem not so pleasant as they used to be.